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Reach vs. Grasp

January 9th, 2011

What I feel like I should do today:

Laundy
Groceries
Sign kids up for camp
Fill out form for financial aid for camp
Go for a run
Organize everybody for the week
Cook dinner

    What I feel like doing today:

    Sit by the fire
    Listen to music
    Knit

      This ain’t gonna be easy.

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      5 Responses to “Reach vs. Grasp”

      1. Margaret
        January 9, 2011 at 9:50 am

        I’m in the same boat today. Joey is at my sister’s for a few days for a little R & R before we start high dose methotrexate sometime in the next 2 weeks. He’ll be inpatient for days on end over the next 10 weeks and I’m torn today between getting the house cleaned for when I’m not home and sitting on my butt with a book and a mimosa. The thing is, I’ll have hours and hours, days and days of book time while Joey is inpatient but that’s no where near the same as being home and sitting.

        • January 9, 2011 at 9:56 am

          i think we underestimate stillness and our deep need for it during tough times.

          enjoy that mimosa. xox

      2. Gary Bonacker
        January 9, 2011 at 11:44 am

        Hey, Chemobabe -
        I don’t normally use military analogies, but this one works for me. Can’t remember where I heard this. “We were drafted into cancer, but our families and friends enlisted”. So sit by the fire,listen to music and knit. i need to remind myself that my family and friends want to help, not have to help.

        Gary B.

      3. January 9, 2011 at 11:00 pm

        I loved the line in your previous post about doing hard time. We’ve been mentally, physically & emotionally imprisioned by cancer. When the cuffs come off, we shift into a different kind of survivorship mode, but we don’t forget the time we’ve done. Survivorship is a culmination of every experience and lesson we’ve ever learned, before and after cancer.

        Because of James’ death, I’m digging down, reaching for different survivorship skills. I know they’re there. I’ve been using some of them for the last two weeks. I also know it helps to have really great friends who post supportive and wise things on my blog. Thank you, Lani.

        Love,
        Brenda

      4. January 10, 2011 at 1:43 pm

        Sometimes it’s just as important to take care of the mind or spirit, so go ahead and sit by the fire, listen to music and knit. Those things are important to do too.

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